Updated: Feb 7
Modesty is a sentiment that seems so far away from our society now.
Flashing your possessions and body in real life and social media seems to be the societal norm these days and I genuinely believe it is doing more harm than good to both those doing it, and seeing it.
I think we could all find so much peace in sharing less and practicing gratitude within ourselves more. It seems the only side to empowerment we hear now is about showing more, being shameless and sometimes, being out right gross (think Cardi B - WAP').
Today I wanted to focus on being modest with how you dress and how much skin you show but as mentioned, that's only a small part of it. Being modest isn't just about covering up, it is about finding an inner peace that allows you to find happiness within yourself without the seeking attention from others.
To preface this, we need to understand what dressing modestly actually means. The thing is, it is difference for each person and highly depends on factors like your personality and culture. As a general rule of thumb, I think dressing modestly is still dressing in a way that makes you feel great and pretty. I think the you go against the principles of modest when you have questionable intent - for example, are you picking a dress because you have lots of skin on show when you go out clubbing and want the attention?
3 Reasons To Practice Modesty In How You Dress
Self Respect and Body Confidence
Self respect is so important and the more we have of it, the more confident we feel within ourselves and our morals. Self respect is a complex issue that is misinterpreted now. I see so many people posting on social media about how they love themselves, post almost naked pictures and say 'they don't care what anyone else thinks'. Personally, when I see that, I see someone with low self esteem that is constantly needing those likes and admiration in order to feel happy that day. That is why we see accounts that post the same naked post, with the same message day after day.
The opposite to this, and what I believe body confidence is, is knowing that your body is the LEAST interesting part about you. You have so much more to offer the world than your body such as your thoughts, your kindness, your nurturing nature and your experiences. By dressing modestly, you are taking the attention away from your body and towards those deeper, more meaningful things.
Respect For Those Around You
Dressing modestly is often essential for showing respect for those around you. I will give you a personal example, I asked an old school friend to attend my nanas funeral to sing a song because my nana absolutely loved her singing voice. She turned up in a tiny black dress that was extremely low cut. I don't hold a grudge at all towards this person and have so much gratitude for her coming at all, but at the same time her choice of outfit seemed disrespectful on the day.
Another example is the one I shared earlier of choosing the revealing dress to go clubbing. I see women do this time and time again when they have a boyfriend or husband. I'm not saying all these women have bad intent and are going to cheat that night. However, I do think there is an old school romance and respect shown when a woman reserves certain parts of her body for the man who has committed to her. I know to a lot of people that sounds really old fashioned and judgemental, but I think it touches on my first point of self respect. By dressing this way, not just anyone can see your body, they have to EARN it through unconditional love and commitment.
Practicality and a Timeless Wardrobe
My final point is that dressing modestly is actually really practical and comfortable. Have you even worn a dress that is just a bit too short and felt yourself tugging and fiddling with it all day? Even worse, I have seen situations where girls wear revealing clothes, then get really drunk and end up in precarious positions with pictures of them showing their breasts and pants. It's just not a good look.
Dressing modestly allows you to enjoy events without worrying what you may be showing if you let your attention slip for a moment. On top of that, it allows you to build a timeless practical wardrobe that you can keep for years.
So that is everything folks. I appreciate this is quite an opinionated blog post and I truly hope it hasn't upset anyone as that isn't my intention. I just wanted to provide the other side to the coin that I think is not as often talked about in our current times.